1. askaguywholikesfatchicks:

    GUEST POST: A RESPONSE TO MY DEADSPIN PIECE ON LOUIE

    Kate Rose is a sexual health advocate and educator in California.

    It was like he handed me an alien object, like some oddly shaped component of a machine that I had no context for. I looked down at it as if I didn’t know what it was for a moment, and then suddenly remembered that often when one member of the human species wishes to show affection for the other, they would like to demonstrate publicly that they don’t mind being seen as associated through the touching of hands. I just started seeing this guy, and it wasn’t until he grabbed my hand on a short walk to the corner store and it shocked me that I realized how jaded I had become about trying to date as a fat chick.

    This apparently still common mating behavior was featured as part of an episode of Louie, thematically centered around a fat waitress, Vanessa, who endures a constant rebuffing of her advances from the title character. Dan followed up this episode with very astute coverage of where the episode hit and where it missed, leaving me with really only one major quibble: his assertion that, “Vanessa would have far less trouble getting someone to hold her hand in real life.” In my own anecdotal experience this has not bore out to reality. 

    I know the plural of anecdote is not data, but dear god do I have a lot of data points to consider. I’ve been on dates with dozens of people in the last few months, many of them guys who transparently take me to only places they never go, guys who even after a fifth date would never want me to hang out with anyone they would call a friend, guys who say when I want to go to a cafe in our neighborhood, “We can’t go there, the staff will think that we’re together and ask me about it,” guys who even after saying, “I would cancel all of my other dates for you,” but wrench their hand away when I try to touch it across the table at brunch.

    I’ve spent a long time working consciously to shed my weight-related shame, and every time this happens it’s like getting grabbed by the ankles and jerked sharply back down to earth. Even a friend who I once dated said, with more frankness than any intentional unkindness, “If I took you to this event with me, it would be this really sexual thing, you know? Like everyone would look at you with me and say, hey I know what he’s into.” Until he said that, it hadn’t occurred to me that I can’t just exist without being some kind of secondary signaling for the sexual proclivities of whatever man is standing in my orbit. Here I thought I was just going to have some champagne and canapes.

    So maybe it’s more fair to say that I stand atop a pile of other people’s horseshit rather than my own soapbox when I have great skepticism for the idea that as Dan says, there are plenty of guys who would be perfectly willing to be publicly seen as with a fat girl. Yeah they exist, they thankfully often self-identify as FAs and go to bashes, but most of us are left to wade in the murky shallows of men who will actually go out with us at all, with very few opportunities to screen in advance if this also comes inclusive with a paralyzing fear of anyone else knowing that they would actually do so.

    Before this guy grabbed my hand, it had been about 8 months since anyone had gripped said limb with affectionate intention in a public place. Oh sure, plenty had maybe touched my hands as a pit stop on the way to grope my ass on a dark street or to slide it up and across my back at a bar in an effort to proposition me for sex. I’ve found plenty of men who would at the drop of the hat stick their tongue in to my mouth in front of strangers, but it had been a dating eternity since anyone wanted to make the public gesture in front of God and the corner store owner and the mailman that hey I like this person and I like being near them, no qualifiers. 

    So when Vanessa says to Louie, “Have you ever held hands with a fat girl? Have you ever walked down the street in the light of day, holding hands, with a big girl like me?” it reached in to my insides, grabbed a big handful, twisted and pulled.

    I know a lot of people are disappointed that this episode didn’t get more right, but frankly all it seemed to do was hold up a mirror to a world that for me almost never gets it right, a world still expects me to to bear the shame of men who want to date me and are scared that someone might laugh at them for it. If there are as Dan says, plenty of men who would disagree, generally speaking, I don’t know them. Vanessa doesn’t either, and her experience is not everyone’s but it is mine and no less a part of the big mosaic of experiences of dating while fat.

    I do ever hope that holding my hand and other displays of public affection and acceptance become the new normal for me. But until then I appreciate Louie for showing some piece of the breadth of experience we have as fat chicks, and that sometimes it is equal parts wonderful and remarkable when a guy holds on and doesn’t let go.
     

  2. magictransistor:

    Utagawa Kuniyoshi. Warriors. 1800s.

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  3. exam:

    "The Breast Portrait Journal" by Clarity Haynes

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  4. dynastylnoire:

    kayliesaurusrex:

    digitized my Never Say Diet piece, and also tweaked a few little things that bothered me about the original.

    you can get this on a shirt or as prints and other stuff at my society 6 shop. :)

    YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

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  6. vooduud3:

    Benjamin Rogers

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  7. gunkiss:

    Her Derby name is “Bomba”

    I wanna make a derby comic pretty bad and I might just use her as char, I loved drawing her. *Printing it so I can have it as motivation for the comic*

    (via fatart)

     

  8. chuxwagon:

    "Can I pick a dress for you to draw Charlie in?" my wife said. 

    "Sure!" I said. 

    "Here’s the MOST COMPLICATED DRESS," my wife said.

    "See you in a week!" I said. 

    (Actually she gave a list of outfits from modcloth and this was just one of them but I had to draw it. And then I had to draw a setting. And then that meant wallpaper and smoky lighting and a vintage chaise.) 

    http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/wine-cellar-celebration-dress

    (via fatart)

     

  9. colleenclarkart:

    Another attempt at drawing from life digitally! This model was super adorable.

    (via fatart)

     

  10. afatfox:

    Liking these jeans a lot more than I thought I would.  I haven’t owned light wash denim in foreeeeeever, but thought it would be appropriate for the spring/winter.

    Top, Jeans, Shoes ~ Torrid
    Flower Crown ~ Petalprops via Etsy

    quick note on the shoes…the side part totally snapped the first time I wore them.  I’m not sure if that shoe was just poorly sewn together in that spot and thankfully Foxy is going to be a peach and fix it for me, but I thought I would give a heads up to anyone who might want to buy them.

    (via fatisattractive)

     


  11. "TRIGGER WARNING: FOOD, EATING DISORDERS

    Right this minute, there is someone going through chemotherapy shopping at your grocery store, buying popsicles and ice cream to help their sore mouth, and worrying what the cashier is going to think.

    There is someone on hemodialysis buying white bread instead of whole wheat, trying to keep their phosphorus levels reasonable between appointments and hoping for the best.

    There is a person attending intensive outpatient treatment for their eating disorder who has been challenged by their therapist to buy a Frappuccino.

    There are dietitians picking up a dozen different candy bars to eat with their clients, who feel ashamed and guilty about enjoying them.

    There is someone who just doesn’t have it in them to cook right now, and this frozen pizza and canned soup will keep them going.

    There are people recovering from chronic dieting and semi-starvation who are buying chocolate and chips at their deprived body’s insistence.

    All around us are people listening to what their bodies need and attempting to make the best possible choice within a context of overwhelming food pressure. All of their choices are valid, and every single one of these foods is “real.”

    "
    — 

    Michelle @ http://www.fatnutritionist.com (via onherplate)

    And there are people buying a fucking cheeseburger because it’s delicious and they want to.

    Other people’s food choices are nobody’s business but their own, and nobody has to have special reasons for needing to buy and eat any particular food.

    I just want to add that to Michelle’s brilliant post.

    (via sleepydumpling)

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  12. pizzafemme:

    deergrrrrl:

    Inspired by pizzafemme. Wake up and love yourself.

    ❤️❤️❤️

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  13. sleepydumpling:

    fatanarchy:

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    FAAAAAAAATTTTT!!!

     

  14. fatbodypolitics:

    lovethyfatness:

    smile-workout-love:

    lovethyfatness:

    Last Friday, a couple of us larger yogis went to our instructor’s house and took pictures in her living room. Some will be used at an upcoming workshop she’s teaching for other yoga instructors on how to offer body positive cues and pose modifications to make their classes more inclusive.

    She gave us the prompt: “What do you wish more yoga teachers knew about creating body-positive classes?”

    We said:
    Don’t assume that we aren’t as strong or flexible.
    Don’t assume that this is my first ever yoga/fitness class.
    Don’t assume that I hate my body.
    Don’t assume that I’m there for weight loss.
    Don’t assume anything about what I eat.
    Don’t assume anything about my health.

    [Warrior I, Pigeon, Warrior II, and a bonus of yours truly laughing while losing balance in Half Moon.]

    Beautiful…there’s nothing more beautiful than someone trying! Nothing more than a gorgeous woman taking care of herself! Don’t quit, never stop trying, do it for yourself! You’re inspiring :-)

    No, I refuse to be inspiring in the way you’re making me ‘inspiring.’ In fact, I’m tired of all y’all using these photos of me, a fat person doing —not trying— yoga, as some feelgood, hope-for-humanity dick stroking.

    Bless y’all’s damn hearts and good intentions, but honest to God.
    I’ve had it up to here.

    This whole post was about how fat people should be able to do sport or enjoy movement without other people sticking their nose in. “Great job! Keep it up! Don’t quit! Good for you for taking care of yourself! You’re inspiring!" Like CAN YOU NOT with the patronizing.

    This. Fat people aren’t your inspiration porn.

     

  15. killerkurves:

    Michole Ewing @ The Walk Runway Fashion Show 8

    (Source: planetofthickbeautifulwomen, via voluptuousambitions)